Now that you have finished the first date, time to dive into the second date and more! In this chapter, I will talk about the importance of making him infatuated with you in the first several weeks of dating and how to make it happen. I will illustrate the intricacies of the second date and unveil the foolproof third date guaranteed to make him want more. You will learn what you need to know about this guy by the end of the third date.
Make Him Infatuated with You Now
Online dating is a part of our fast-paced digital life stuffed with information and endless distractions. He is probably communicating with several people on dating apps (as you should be too), so it is crucial to keep his attention and get him infatuated with you in the first few weeks of dating. Nobody will have the patience to know more about you if they don’t feel a connection during the first two or three dates. Follow these three infallible guidelines to make him desire to know more about you even when it’s only the second date.
Don’t Be the Instant Noodle
Let’s be honest, instant noodles don’t taste that great. No matter how appealing the packaging looks, that brick of ramen noodles doesn’t come close to the gourmet picture on the package. In addition to the bland taste, they are also high in calories and not filling. Yet, some people are hooked on instant noodles because they are convenient and cheap. They are ready to eat in three minutes and all you need to do is add boiling water. When you are exhausted and starving after a busy day, that doesn’t sound too bad, does it? However, in dating, don’t be the Instant Noodle.
We all know those Instant Noodle girls. These are girls that he never takes out for a date. She comes over to his place late at night to “Netflix and Chill,” ordering takeout at the most. He gets to see her whenever he wants, at his convenience, and doesn’t need to put in any effort to keep her around. She may feel that he likes her so much and cannot live without her, but at the end of the day, he will never see her as girlfriend material.
You are not one of them. You are an invaluable, attractive woman that deserves to be pursued by a good guy who respects you. You must not be easy. You must speak up when someone tries to treat you like a doormat. If he seems to always ask you out last minute, tell him as much as you would love to see him, you’ve already made plans tonight. If he asks you to come over to his place, tell him at this moment it’s more fun to go out. Be the Michelin Gourmet, not his easy instant noodles.
Your Definition of “Cool” is Wrong
We think we need to be cool to have the upper hand in dating, especially during the early stages. Maybe this is because of misguided “dating secrets” or trying to emulate those popular, but distant, players. We have been taught that you put on a poker face on dates, nodding “That’s fair,” while screaming Holy Shit! That’s amazing! inside your brain when your date says he’s been to Antarctica.
You see your favorite dessert on the menu and cannot wait to order it, but you have to remain cool and decline by saying “I don’t do dessert.” In fact, refraining from expressing real emotions and feelings is not cool. It is boring. The real coolness showing emotions, being fun and passionate, and acting like a real human being instead of a robot. Go ahead and let him know you are impressed next time he shares his cliff diving experience. Tell him that tiramisu is your favorite dessert and you are going to order it! Be genuine and be real.
Be His Ally
Treat him as an ally although you have just started seeing him. When he asks you out and offers more than one idea, be the teammate and pick one instead of saying “It’s up to you.” When you both have arrived at the restaurant, only to see that it’s closed for a private event, step up and come up with an alternative instead of waiting for him to do all the work. When he has paid for the baseball game tickets, take the lead and offer to pay for the hot dogs. You should definitely not be easy, but please treat him like your teammate on the same project, not your maid or your provider. You will be amazed how much he appreciates it.
Swipe to The Altar: Your 10-Step Roadmap to Finding True Love Online
Non-fiction/self help
Date Published: 8/3/2020
It’s so easy to fall in love, but hard to find someone who will catch you. Let me guess – you’re a beautiful and intelligent girl, but so far, you haven’t got much luck finding true love. This book will show you how to find your true love from online dating. You will no longer be the Instant Noodle and your love life will be transformed forever.
About the Author
Mrs. Q. Warnock, the former Miss Qianlei Li, started her online dating journey in 2014 and found the love of her life at the end of 2016. She has gone on 42 first dates and has got her heart broken multiple times before realizing the right way to go about online dating. She now lives happily with her husband in Northern Virginia.
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